Global News: Editor’s Letter: Viral Parenting Moments of 2023

Photo Credit: Grace Rivera

I recently stumbled upon an old issue of Parents dating back to December 1926 (yes, we've been around for nearly 100 years) and one cover line in particular caught my attention: "Is a Child Made or Unmade by the Age of Seven?" The question was inspired by the philosopher Aristotle's famous quote positing that children are molded into the adults they will become during those early years. As the mother of 8- and 10-year olds, I respectfully disagree. I like to think that kids are capable of adapting and changing as their grown-ups prepare them to choose their own paths one day.

The way we parent has certainly evolved since Aristotle strode around Ancient Macedonia in a tunic and sandals. One massive difference: social media's role in shaping kids and our own understanding of different parenting behaviors. This year alone we've seen a number of viral trends that had everyone at Parents HQ talking and slacking:

1. The term dusty son caught on quickly with moms and dads everywhere saying "enough" to toxic masculinity and laziness by teaching their boys how to clean and adhere to consent.

2. While those with daughters gave in to the soft girl trend and embraced all things pastel and ultra feminine. Just don't mistake girliness for weakness. That crop top is all about being strong and confident.

3. Mental health professionals warned us about eggshell parenting and how children are affected when caregivers have unstable moods. Thankfully, they also told us how to break the cycle.

4. We were reminded that siblings of kids with chronic illness or disabilities need to feel seen and heard, too. Glass children, as they're known, are often overlooked because their parents are busy caring for the other child. We can all empathize with both caregivers and kids in this situation.

5. The label "married single mom" aimed to define moms who do it all despite having a partner. It's similar to being the default parent and underlines what we've been saying forever: all moms, single or not, need more support.

6. Benign neglect is a concept popularized by actress Jennifer Garner. The premise is simple: it's about creating space for ourselves as individuals by giving our kids room to do their own thing and, well, figure it out.

Which brings me back to my point that kids are capable of adapting. I've never been one for adhering to a singular parenting method or philosophy, yet the idea of benign neglect sounds appealing. As I think about next year, I want my daughters to continue growing and learning as they carve out their own space in the world. Part of that is letting them stumble and get back up again without unnecessarily intervening. I'll admit that won't be easy for me (they're still my babies), but I'm willing to try. I hope you and yours keep evolving in ways that light your path in 2024! Happy New Year!

Sincerely,
Grace
grace.bastidas@parents.com
@brooklynwriter

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